The Good Wife / 5 Regrets

“Act on your truth." ―Tracey Liv

Take a few minutes for self-reflection this morning. To connect to yourself, get inspired by new thoughts and ideas, and feel fired up to live your absolute wildest dreams (on your terms).



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For many years I've been personally and professionally inspired by the wisdom found in Bronnie Ware's book, Top 5 Regrets of the Dying.

Bronnie worked in hospice care for many decades, and she heard the stories (and regrets) of her patients during their last days of life.

Consistently, Bronnie heard people express the same 5 regrets, over and over again.

  • I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
  • I wish I hadn't worked so hard
  • I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
  • I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
  • I wish that I had let myself be happier

For decades I've been driven by this invisible force screaming: help people live a life true to themselves.

I regularly imagine a world where every single person wakes up and does exactly what was true for them.

In their work. Their marriage. With their kids. Their colleagues. Their choices. Their everything....

And didn't live a life that others expected on them.

But why do so many people not live a life like this? What forces are in the way? How come it's so damn hard to do the thing that could bring us into the life we dream of?!

It could require:

  • drastically changing something about our current life (work, marriage, health, relationships, hobbies),
  • saying something truthful, that would 100% upset or anger others,
  • facing the reasons why we've been overworking (loneliness, broken relationships, self-loathing),
  • admitting we're unhappy.

These things could be happening, of course, but what I think also happens far too often is:

Many of us have unconsciously taken on the expectations from others as our own.

Meaning, many of us are born into rules and norms about how to be - in work, in marriage, in family - and we just took it at face value as true, and adopted it for ourselves without questioning it.

We actually think that the expectations from others is also what we want!!

Until we don't.

A few years ago I realized I was being the 'good' wife. I was happily following antiquated religious rules of conduct, socially accepted norms, and family-approved responsibilities.

For personal reasons, I'm not going to go into what these things were, but trust me, I slowly woke up and realized...

I agreed to wedding vows and social norms -- without even knowing what the heck they were or what I thought of them.

I just "went with the swim" and stepping right into the role of Wife, and marriage, without having a clue whether I believed all of the things that were about to be put on me.

It's been a hell of a ride. Tons and tons of conversations between my husband Chris and I. Yes, big arguments. Yes, scary truths coming out. Yes, having to reach for the courage to express myself in an attempt to live true to myself, not what others expected.

But damn, it was worth it. So so so so worth it.

Are you being the good' wife? The 'good' entrepreneur? The 'good' son? The 'good' colleague"? The 'good' citizen?

Are you doing what others expect of you, day in and day out?

To help you tune back into yourself and your truth:

Listen to Episode 29 - How to act on your psychic and intuitive hits

Imagine if tomorrow, you:

  1. Lived a life true to yourself, not what others expected of you,
  2. If you didn't work so hard, or so much,
  3. If you expressed your true feelings,
  4. If you allowed yourself to be happier,
  5. If you stayed in touch with friends.


Coaching exercise.

Here are the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying:

  • I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
  • I wish I hadn't worked so hard
  • I wish I had the courage to express my feelings
  • I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
  • I wish that I had let myself be happier

Pick one that you feel is most likely a regret you will have at the end of your life, if you don't change anything.

Write down to yourself why you picked this regret. How come? What's going on in your life right now? Why would this regret be important for you to do something about?


Please email me at and tell me which regret you chose. Why you chose it and a little more about what this email brought up for you. I'd love to hear it.

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I hope you got a lot from this article and this week's podcast episodes.

I love you. Let's go.

xx Tracey


Co-Founder and International Coach at Liv.Lit! Coaching and Training

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